Disfunctional Families and Stress

Hi. I've been thinking a lot over the past few days about stress between members of disfunctional families like mine and my friend D. D's father is dying and with that sadness and that stress, all the "quirks" are coming out and all the old destructive, guilting patterns are rearing their heads. D's handling it very well, seeing and understanding what is going on and trying not to get sucked in while doing what is right for him in respecting his dad during his final days and the coming burial and mourning periods. It is taking much strength from he and his spouse and I applaud them both. I hope that when the time comes for me to face this, that I will have the same amount of courage and fortitude.